Setting proper goals
Two years ago I went to see a therapist.
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Although the reason for it may be strange to some for me it was a necessary experience.
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I have always set goals that were age dependent. Don’t ask me why – I genuinely don’t know nor do I recommend it.
✅ Married by 25 (DO NOT replicate! You have no business being married by 25 and it should definitely not be a goal!!)
✅ Director Role by 28 (Replicate with caution as you will be missing wisdom and experience. Do check your ego; if you don’t you will struggle tremendously)
✅ certain annual income by 30
✅ Multi unit oversight by 33
❌ VP by 35 …….. queue the therapist
When it didn’t happen at 35, my self-esteem took a massive hit. My Imposter syndrome came back with vengeance and I struggled to find motivation. I guess I thought- if the goal wasn’t met then why bother at all.
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The therapist wasn’t very good and I stopped seeing her after 3 sessions but I did go back to reading and doing self-work.
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After a lot of self-searching here is what I learned:
✅ Don’t jump from goal to goal blindly
✅ Find joy in the process.
It seems so obvious and simple.
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Unfortunately, for me it was about achieving the end result and for as long as I achieved – I never bothered to stop and actually enjoy the process. Missing a goal yanked me back to reality and made me question the process and outcome.
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Life is a marathon – not a sprint. Goals are great but figure out why you set them and do your best to enjoy the journey
